How To Get Over A Break Up
Getting over a break up is by no means an easy process. You may have heard that time heals all wounds; this is particularly true in the case of getting over a break up. Without allowing yourself the appropriate time and space in which to heal, you will not be successful in getting over the situation and moving on.
A break up will cause you to feel a wide variety of intense emotions, in particular anger, fear, resentment and sadness. These are all perfectly normal emotions to feel after a break up, so if you find you are experiencing some or even all, rest assured you are normal. Many people have walked this beaten path before.
In order to allow yourself to let go of these feelings, you must first accept them. This involves allowing yourself to feel each emotion, and to act on each in an appropriate way. An appropriate way of acting out may include crying or screaming into your pillow. Do not prevent yourself from acting out in a healthy way. It is important, however, to prevent yourself form acting out in an unhealthy way. Do not seek revenge by embarking on a mission to hurt or spite your ex partner. This will get you nowhere and will ultimately end in you feeling worse than before. Remember, just because you have been hurt does not give you the right to hurt others.
Whilst you are allowing yourself to feel these emotions, it is important to keep sight of the objective- to ultimately get over the break up. Many people easily lose sight of the objective and find themselves wallowing in their emotions without being able to give them up. Give yourself time to feel the emotions, however remain aware of just how much time you are taking to do so. You will have good days and you will have bad days, so take each day at a time and don’t resent yourself if you find you are having an extremely emotional day, remember, this is perfectly normal.
Despite feeling like it is the end of the world, it is important to look for that small flame of hope within and keep it alive. Remember, a break up does not mean you are doomed to be alone for the rest of your life, it simply means there was something wrong with the relationship. You will move on and there will be someone else; it juts takes time.