Healing A Broken Heart
Unfortunately there is no quick fix for a broken heart, instead the pain suffered from a broken heart must be addressed by allowing time and taking a few steps to aid in the fastest recovery possible. Healing a broken heart is not easy, but rest assured it is possible.
Firstly, it is important that you allow yourself a period of time in which you do not see your ex. As painful or immature as this may sound, this is the best thing you could possibly do for yourself. Seeing your ex will bring out the emotions and feelings you are trying to let go of and will put you at risk of saying or doing something in the heat of the moment that you might regret later. For your own benefit, avoid your ex partner like the plague to allow yourself time to heal.
By all means, do not try to contact your ex in any way. Avoid calling, sending text messages or passing messages through friends. It is important to have time apart to allow the healing process to take place. Seeing or contacting your ex partner will only be rubbing slat in the wound.
Crying is an excellent means of releasing all the feelings and emotions within, so grab a pillow, some tissues and go for your life. Remember, it is perfectly ok to cry, it does not mean you are weak, rather, it is a means of letting go and cleansing yourself of unwanted feelings.
You may also wish to discuss your feelings with friends. Though your friends may get sick of hearing about your break up, this is an important means of allowing you to understand the situation and come to terms with what has happened.
As time goes by, distracting yourself is an excellent means of staying occupied and preventing yourself from thinking about your ex partner and focusing on your loss (or perhaps it’s their loss). So go out with your friends or family, socialize and have fun. Starting to live your life will aid in you getting it on track again. Remember- out of sight, out of mind.
The same applies to any mementos you may have saved from the relationship. For your own good it is best to store these away in a box or in a cupboard, where you will not be able to see or look at them until such a time that you are able to think of the relationship without yearning to be back in it.